I swear it's like an epidemic...the text messaging brother who was charismatic enough to get our attention, fine enough to get our number, but only uses it to flirt through text messages, and confuses the hell out of women because he makes so many promises through a series of sms's, but we haven't heard his voice since the day we met him. 

Now surely as I type this and you read this, it sounds completely ridiculous that any woman would engage in such bullsh-t, but the reality is, you and I, and just about every woman we know, has had the text message relationship at least once in her adult, date happy life.

This man sounds good, well reads good in theory, but he just never seems to deliver. In fact, he has more excuses than we have shoes, and he believes his dependency of text messages is completely justified. It's so justified he's offended when you question him about it, as he feels in the depths of his arrogance, that you little lady should be thrilled that he's found the time in his busy schedule to text you in the first place.

The nerve of us to want a phone call, a real voice behind the text messaging maniac, you know, some assurance that we aren't wasting our time text messaging some complete loser...

But isn't that what he is?

I mean, seriously, can any text messaging relationship be justified?

I ask this seriously because I've come to learn a lot about men. Now I'm no expert, but when you've finally been pursued, you truly learn the difference between who's courting you and who's playing with you. In essence, you can tell the difference between the brother who calls and the one who just texts. And from what I see with men, when they want something, they go get it. They hunt it, they circle around their prey...they pursue.

Most men don't text women they want. And if they do text, surely it doesn't take the place of the phone call.

You see, men may be a little different than our fathers, grandfathers, and our civil rights leaders; but, even they know they still must be hunters to catch the prey. 

Like brick masons, men know they must lay down the foundation to build the house. 

So often women forget that men never truly forgot the basics; we waste our time on men who haven't even laid down the foundation with us.

Even 2 years in, there's no house, no paid for land, and no construction sign in sight. 

But can we be surprised when it's the same man who started off playing when he should have been calling?

Now I don't write this to make this a woman's problem and/or her responsibility, but I write this to remind a woman to never waste her time on a man who isn't even willing to lay down the bricks. I don't care that women are more independent than the former generations, at the core of every woman, is a woman who deserves and desires to be pursued. And she ought to cut off the brother who says he's too busy to call, since it's a known fact that even the busiest of men make time to pursue the woman they just have to have.

Besides, when he meets the woman that he deems worth the phone call, please believe she'll get the phone call.

When we know better we do better, and we surely don't fall for the text messaging complex.