So Easy Any Man Can Do It? The 'Formula' Men Use to Trap Women

It’s time to keep things very blunt and very honest. Countless men are

only after sex and will devise a formula to get sex from you and treat

you like crap later. This may include the man that is pursuing you

currently. He may seem sincere and genuine, but he may very well just

be playing that "good" guy role to break down your defenses and get you

comfortable enough to get inside the panties. Then he will break you

down mentally and emotionally to the point where you won‘t leave.

To sum it up; he will treat you good now, so he can treat you bad

As part of the formula, he will call you every day, just to say he "is

thinking about you". He will send you sweet and "sincere" text

messages, BBM’s, Facebook messages or @reply to you on twitter. Some

will buy you gifts, wine and dine you at the finest of restaurants,

take you to concerts, movies, plays, even to the park or the beach and

watch the sunrise/sunset.

And then when he does get inside the panties, he will go above and

beyond the call of duty to please you so that you be memorized by the

penis.

You may be thinking right now "Just wait a minute, AJ. My Significant

Other did all of those things and we are doing just fine!" Well that’s

just great. Consider yourself lucky. The guy who was pursuing you

really did want to get to know you and showed you that he is really

into you.

Others may be like, "Damn, he did do that, then we had sex and the sex

is great…" Well, you just fell for that formula that many men enact to

get the goodies and keep you close so he can keep on getting those

goodies. More women have to realize the signs of this Formula and

react accordingly.

Here are some examples of things a man that is using the Formula will do:

1. He will say "I Love You" relatively soon in the "Relationship."

Typically this is around anywhere from the 1st few weeks through the

1st few months of the "Relationship."

2. He is very secretive about his online profiles. If you are friends

with him on Facebook and can see everything on his page, suddenly he

takes you off his friends list, becomes invisible to you on Facebook,

or even deactivates his wall. He could also become invisible to you on

the instant messengers and the BBM.

3. He suddenly changes up his routine with you and you begin to see

less and less of him. You go from seeing him every or every other day,

to seeing him once a week...and then to once every other week.

4. He tries to use sex to soothe you when you are mad at him. He will

try to use the sex to keep you mesmerized and calm when you are mad at

him, only to leave you dazed and confused on what to do about him

later because you may be too scared to give up good sex.

5. He will only bring you around his place certain times of the day

and week. If you never even hear from him until he calls you over to

his place or calls you to come over your place, regardless what time

of day/night it is; that is a problem.

6. When you do spend time with him, he doesn’t seem interested in

anything you want to do besides sex.

7. Those random gifts you got while he was "courting" you suddenly

cease to be given to you by him.

8. He begins to forget the little things that matter to you that he

wasn’t forgetting in the beginning. Those fancy dates don't occur any

more...he'd rather sit in the house and just have sex.

Ladies, you have to learn to read the signs. Use that 6th sense that

you all have been born with. Most importantly, protect the goods and

make him work for you. Don’t cave in so easily if and when you see

some one treating you like a lady and/or showering you with "gifts."

Require a real commitment before being physical, and you'll be able to

weed about the bad guys a lot faster. And when you do get that

"amazing" sex from him, you have to learn to keep that separate and

not fall in love with the penis. Once you fall in love with the penis,

you are stuck. Every man knows this.

Some of you may be asking, "How do I even know when this ‘Formula’ is

even in play?" Well some men got so good at this, it’s not even funny.

For instance, some women try to be slick and look through phones and

messages. Well a guy will simply not have any messages saved to his

phone and have all his other women’s numbers saved under names of

guys. If he has roommates, they may cover for him. If you go knocking

on the door of their apartment without calling, you are not getting

in. If they are nice, they will open the door and let you know that he

isn’t there, even with his car in the parking lot.

Speaking of the car, he may use his friend’s car to pick up different

girls or he may only go see you at your place and it may or may not be

during "booty call hours". If you live in a dorm, it may be between

that 3-4 hour break between your classes on Tuesdays and Thursdays.

For all those that have fell for the Formula, you have to realize that

it’s about control. He is doing all of these things to maintain

control over you and your vagina. All he cares is being able to get

sex from you when he wants it, and he'll do enough in the beginning to

keep you willing and able to supply. For all you know he may have 3, 4

or even 20 women and all of them think they are the main one. If you

A good thing about this is that not every man is pulling these stunts

to get in your panties and keep you around. In fact, some of us are

really just trying to get to know you. You just have to really learn

how to read the signs and understand that men are smarter than you

think and just protect your heart and most importantly, your goodies.

If you do those things, more than likely you will not get caught up

with that infamous "Formula."